Stent removal and health update – Tuesday 14th June 2016

Hey Everyone,

It’s been a while since I last done an update so I thought as I had my stent removed yesterday I would do an update today.

The ureter came with the donor kidney and was connected to the bladder with a small incision. A stent is a thin, hollow tube which is place inside the ureter to keep it open and allow connection to the bladder to heal. The urethral stent needs to stay in place for about six weeks after transplant.

It is now 9 weeks (2 months and 1 day) since my transplant and yesterday I had my stent removed.

Before the surgery I did want reassurance and seeked it from many CKD groups however most said it was uncomfortable but not painful and others said it was really painful so I still was unsure what to expect. I was really nervous but knew it had to come out otherwise it would cause all kinds of problems plus I felt restricted when I did go to the loo because of the stent.

So operation day came which was yesterday 13th June and I was told to get into a hospital gown. I was then wheeled down to theatre where I actually had my transplant which was weird.

Anyway it wasn’t very dignified and it took them a while to get the tube in because my uretha is abnormal lol (only me) and after a while of trying to get it in and putting a liquid kind of general anaesthetic in the area I still felt everything. Now I must admit it was actually pretty awful for me and stung like hell. Although the pain wasn’t enough to make me cry it was enough to make my eyes water and I made some funny noises lol. It felt like I was having injections inside to be honest so yeah not a pleasant experience although the surgeons were amazing and it was the same surgeon who carried out my transplant and she’s amazing and lovely and made me feel at ease. I mean she even put on some 80s music beforehand lol as she knows what I’m like 😂

After a while, and to me it did feel a while and several attempts of trying to get hold of the stent because it also was in an awkward place it was out!

It was a long thing thing that looked like a tape worm to be honest. I was like woah that was in me! Lol!

After going to the loo stung and burnt like a if I had a bad UTI (Urine Tract Infection) but before the procedure I had an antibiotic to avoid any UTIs.

It did bleed and today it’s still uncomfortable to wee although I no longer feel restricted! It is still bleeding today but this is all normal.

Two weeks ago I was told that I could now go to Cambridge every fortnight and so I’ve got my appointment this Thursday and so far everything is going well.

I went clubbing with my friends on Saturday and had only a few drinks and I was happy and spent my night dancing and laughing!

My life is now slowly coming back together and I’ve made so many plans to be excited for. Yay!

Thank you for reading! Xxxx



My views on the Girls to Men (Transgender) Documentary – Wednesday 14th October 2015

Hey Everyone,

I am watching this documentary called Girls To Men. It was on Channel 4 on 13th October.
This documentary is about girls being born in the wrong body and their journey on becoming a man that they’ve always wanted to be. A program about being Transgender.

I found one seen in particular pretty uncomfortable and very insensitive. Alfie is 17 years old. Alfie was born Ana and has been living as a guy for 2 years. In one of the scenes Alfie is seen going into a men’s clothing shop and taking about how conscious he is about buying certain clothes as he doesn’t want his girls body magnified by certain clothes.
However the shop keeper Jason is inquisitive about the whole thing, and it was the whole conversation that I found uncomfortable, insensitive and bloody rude.

Here I have written what was said between Jason and Alfie.

Jason – So you’ve not gone the whole way yet?
Alfie – No, well I haven’t even started testosterone yet
Jason – because you’re going to have to wait for a certain age before you’re allowed to have it, because of like growth or because I don’t really know how it works?
Alfie – Privately you can have it from 16, on the NHS you can have it from 18. Then you’ve got to get top half surgery, stuff like that and obviously the bottom half surgery comes later in life, if you want it.
Jason – I know that when you are standing in a urinal or cubical, and you’re a man and you’re standing there and you’ve got that in your hand. That’s what makes you feel like a man in my eyes, because I am a man, I was born one. Are you just a glorified dyke?
Alfie – It’s very (interrupted by Jason)
Jason – Without sounding horrible,
Alfie – Yeah, yeah I get it
Jason – but I am just saying. You must of experienced it that it’s now fashionably cool to be dykes and stuff like that. There is no way that you’ve not experienced that or seen that.
Alfie – (Looks upset, sad and angry and remains speechless)

Now, I understand that people don’t understand and are inquisitive about Transgender’s. However, the way that conversation went was insensitive and rude. Not only did Jason rub it in that he was born a man but he also went on to insult Alfie by asking if he was a glorified dyke? A word that lesbians don’t like to be referred to as in genuine, so I am sure that Alfie who is not a lesbian and is in fact transgender found this incredibly difficult to hear. The expression on Alfie’s face said it all. He was hurt, upset and angry. Alfie didn’t retaliate maliciously in fact he didn’t retaliate at all, what an amazing guy!

(An update on this conversation is that I tweeted Alfie about my blog and the shop incident and Alfie did tweet back saying ‘It was so out of context, he’s actually a really great guy x’)

I personally don’t understand how it feels to be born in the wrong body as fortunately for me I have never felt like I was born in the wrong body. However, I can only imagine how it feels to be born and trapped in a body that you hate, makes you sick when you look in the mirror. I guess it could feel a little like body dysphoria disorder (a person who thinks about their real or perceived flaws for hours each day) Obviously transgender and body dysphoria disorder are different but similar in the aspect that the person looks into the mirror and hate what they see.

I am a firm believer in the fact that you are born the way you are and I 100% believe that you can be born in the wrong body. People are born Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian and some are born in the wrong bodies.

Coming out as gay, lesbian or bisexual can be incredibly nerve racking as the fear of rejection is the most apparent. I know how this feels, as a bisexual lady I often have had to explain myself and also tell family and friends even with fear of rejection. So imagining having to come out as transgender and saying that you were born in the wrong body is 100 times worse.

One of the guys who was having his bottom surgery said ‘I don’t have a choice, I have to do this to be happy’ And I completely back him up on this one. Who would want to choose a life of injections, surgeries, bullying and depression. No-one would. In order to feel normal and the person they are on the inside, they have to bring the person within outside.

I think more awareness needs to go around about LGBT and Transgender community. I think the problem is, people have not enough knowledge so they become un-nerved and confused.

This documentary was very interesting and it shew real feelings and emotions. You get to see transforming surgery which is something that you don’t always get to see. A great documentary that would do well in a lesson teaching students at school, college or university about being transgender and what it entails. This documentary could also help others who are wanting to transition. They can see that with a little bit of perseverance and patients you can physically become the person you always was inside.

This was my view on Channel 4 documentary Girls to Men.
The documentary starred.
Alfie, 18 from Harpenden, Hertfordshire, was born Ana
Billy, 25 from Cardiff, born Connie, is in final stages of transitioning
Ethan, 19 who used to be Lauren is having testosterone injections

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