New Year Resolutions for 2017

Hey Everyone,

So I had previously written a blog about 2016 but this blog is going to be about 2017 and my new years resolutions or what I want to achieve this year.

For me this new year is slightly different.

It is the first year I entered where I am not ill or relying on dialysis to keep me alive.

People are always complaining at the phrase “New Year, New Me” To be perfectly honest, you will always be you but you can be a better you. There are always improvements that you can make to improve you as an individual.

New Years Resolution’s mean a lot to me, more than those who throw out their New Years Resolution’s and never do them, or stick by them for so long and then give up and spending the rest of the year regretting that they gave up their resolution’s. I believe you should only make New Years Resolutions if you’re going to accomplish them. Don’t set yourself resolutions that you know you won’t accomplish.

For the last 2 years I have either been ill with Chronic Kidney Disease and then Kidney Failure or then relying on dialysis. I then had a kidney transplant in April 2016 given by my beautiful mother, so the majority of 2016 has been a year of recovery.

It has been the most hardest journey I have ever been in, and sometimes I do wonder how I made it through. But I have and I am so proud of myself that I have gone through one of the most traumatic things in my life and I’ve come out the other side with all my marbles. Yes, I have lost my confidence, become more anxious and sometimes I am a hormonal mess. Of course such a big thing is bound to effect a person in one way or another and if I am perfectly honest it has effected me but this is why my new years resolutions are to improve myself, and my abilities.

Towards the end of 2016 I started to rebuild a life and slowly rebuild my confidence and independence and also get back a social life, which I lacked for practically the whole of 2015 and the majority of 2016.

Now what resolutions have I decided on do you ask? Well I will tell you what my resolution’s are and why I have chosen them.

  1. To be healthier
    I want to lose weight, eat more healthier and exercise more. Previously I had never had the energy to do all these things, but as I slowly regain my energy I want to be able to get my mind and body in the best health it can be. Plus I have to be healthier to prolong my transplanted kidney. So this is a MUST!
  2. To re-start my driving lessons and work towards passing within this year
    Doing my driving lessons and being able to drive will open up a massive gate of opportunity. I think it will also help my independence, confidence and it will mentally challenge me and improve me as a person in so many ways. I  want to work hard into hopefully passing this year. My first lesson has already been booked for this month, and I literally can’t wait.
  3. Get a Car
    I will be purchasing a cheap car, and insure myself on it so I can drive with my dad or Kayleigh in the car even before I pass my driving test. I think the more practise I have the better I will be. I also think this will push me into passing, looking at my little car that I will want to drive.
  4. Improve Confidence
    I want to improve my confidence, I think with the rest of my resolutions this will be accomplished. It is something I really did lose a lot of since being unwell.
  5. Improve Independence
    I want to also improve my independence. I relied on my parents a lot to look after me as I was unable at the time to look after myself, and doing these other resolutions will also help me accomplish this.
  6. To return to work
    I would like to return to work this year, I need to focus on this mainly after my year check up in April. I need to find a job that will fit my health, as obviously since having a transplant I can’t do jobs that I used to be able to do, so I need to really look into what I can do and apply for jobs. It’s an overwhelming thought but it has to be done, and the outcome will improve my independence and confidence.
  7. Remove toxic and negative people from my life
    I don’t need toxic or negative people in my life, after all I have been through a horrendously negative time, so from now on I will only surround myself with people who are positive, or at least are there for me. No part time friends.
  8. Go on Holiday
    It has been years and years since I went on Holiday. There is nothing I need more than a Holiday. I will definitely go on Holiday this year! After all I think I deserve it!

I could go on to say that I would love to move out into my own place and all of that but for now I am keeping to resolution’s that are realistic and ones that I can accomplish. Positive thinking, positive outcomes.

This is a clean slate. New 365 page story, a new chapter, another chance to improve my life. I can’t wait for a new journey with my girl and I can’t wait to see where me and her end up together.

A very happy new year to you all, and I will blog very soon!




Looking back at 2016

Hey Everyone,

It has been a while since I have blogged but as it is now a new year I have took this opportunity to recap on 2016.

I started 2016 with me being on dialysis waiting for a transplant which we had got the date for 12th April 2016, I started it positively but was also petrified for the following months, especially when it got closer and closer to the transplant date.
My transplant was carried out in the April, and I must admit it was the most painful and hard experience of my journey so far. You can never imagine the amount of pain or the emotional strain you go through when going through such a massive operation. It was hard, even harder seeing my mother in pain to give me a second chance of life. I am forever grateful for the gift she has given me and I still count my lucky stars for mum because if it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t be writing this blog now.

The recovery process was painful and long and it really did take a lot out of me and mum. The whole family in fact. The little things like walking, getting out of bed, laying down become massive tasks, and painful ones at that but day by day it got better and better.

The following months were me and mum recovering slowly but we got there.

I had a relationship break up in July, it was hard at the time but eventually you get over it and move on. Time is always the biggest healer.

The following months I started building my social life, going out with old and new friends and trying to rebuild confidence and independence that I had lost through the year of being ill and recovering.

I started seeing my new girlfriend Kayleigh in August. We had known of each other for around 2/3 years, but had only started talking again around May time. We had always had a flirty friendship. Meeting her in August we realised there was something there and our relationship blossomed. We went on some amazing adventures. Colchester Zoo, Clacton, Thorpe Park, Brighton and went to a music festival called Sundown. The last couple months we have been through a rocky part of our relationship. There is no doubt that we love each other. I am glad to be starting 2017 with her by my side. I can’t wait to have a fresh year and journey with her. We have so many more spontaneous adventures to go on.

I have not gone through my year month by month but just the main parts of what happened in 2016.

I will be writing a new blog on my new years resolutions and what I have planned for 2017.